ThinkDifferently

September 5, 2009

Dear winners,

I hear lot of people saying that creativty and innovation are necessary for professionals and business people only.  This is absolutly not true.  Creativity and Innovation is embedded into each and every minds but only few people discover them to achieve what they want.  You are now going to read how a little change of thought in positive direction changed the routine income of a beggar.   Enjoy reading it…..

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.” There were only a few coins in the hat.
 

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A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

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Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?” 
 

The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.”
What he had written was: “Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.”

Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?

Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective? 
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Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

Invite others towards good with wisdom. Live life with no excuse and love with no regrets. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

Great men say, “Life has to be an incessant process of repair and reconstruction, of discarding evil and developing goodness.  In the journey of life, if you want to travel without fear, you must have the ticket of a good conscience.”

The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling.
And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

Being happy or sad is YOUR choice.

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CrackedPot

August 26, 2009

Hi Winners,

This time, I bring you with an interesting story about finding Positives in our short comings.     I thank my friend Rex(Trainers-Training-2008 group) for reminding this story.   Enjoy reading this….

A water bearer in India had two large pots, one hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house.  The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master’s house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made.  But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.”  Why?” asked the bearer.  “What are you ashamed of?”  “I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house.  Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.  The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”  Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some.   But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.  The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot’s side?  That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them.  For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers  to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”

Moral: Each of us has our own unique flaws. We’re all cracked pots.

Instead of cribbing over your short-comings, lets think about how to convert them into a super power.    If you feel that your dearest members(friends, parents, spouse, children) are cracked pots, then start thinking about converting them in a positive direction before they get collapsed by those short-comings.   Definetly there will be some inherent power in them that can make their life as well as your life a living master piece.

So lets start appreciating all the different people in our life!

cheers,

Saran.

As for me “FAILURE” is a process of “Finding Abundant Intelligence  in Life to Unearth the Richest Experiences (Success)”

Art of being Well

August 20, 2009

Hi Winners,

I’m delighted to meet you all after a long gap.   I’m happy to display yet another interesting and extremely motivating thought “Art of being well”.   This thought is compiled from a speech by “Dr. Dráuzio Varella”,  a famous Brazilian physician, educator and Scientist.    Enjoy reading it.

If you don’t want to be ill………Speak your feelings

motions and feelings that are hidden, repressed, end in illnesses as: gastritis, ulcer, lumbar pains, spinal.  With time, the repression of the feelings degenerates to the cancer.  Then, we go to a confidante, to share our intimacy, ours “secret”, our errors! The dialogue, the speech, the word, is a powerful remedy and an excellent therapy!

If you don’t want to be ill………Make decisions

The undecided person remains in doubt, in anxiety, in anguish. Indecision accumulates problems, worries and aggressions. Human history is made of decisions.  To decide is precisely to know to renounce, to know to lose advantages and values to win others.  The undecided people are victims of gastric ailments, nervous pains and problems of the skin.

If you don’t want to be ill………Find solutions

Negative people do not find solutions and they enlarge problems.  They prefer lamentation, gossip, pessimism. It is better to light a match that to regret the darkness. A bee is small, but produces one of the sweetest things that exist.  We are what we think. The negative thought generates negative energy that is transformed into illness.

If you don’t want to be ill………Don’t live by appearance

Who hides reality, pretends , poses and always wants to give the impression of being well. He wants to be seen as perfect, easy-going, etc. but is accumulating tons of weight.  A bronze statue with feet of clay. There is nothing worse for the health than to live on appearances and facades.  These are people with a lot of varnish and little root.  Their destiny is the pharmacy, the hospital and pain.

If you don’t want to be ill………Accept

The refusal of acceptance and the absence of self-esteem, make us alienate ourselves.  Being at one with ourselves is the core of a healthy life. They who do not accept this, become envious, jealous, imitators, ultra-competitive, destructive.  Be accepted, accept that you are accepted, accept the criticisms. It is wisdom, good sense and therapy.

If you don’t want to be ill………Trust

Who does not trust, does not communicate, is not opened, is not related, does not create deep and stable relations, does not know to do true friendships.  Without confidence, there is not relationship. Distrust is a lack of faith in you and in faith itself.

If you don’t want to be ill………Do not Live Life Sad

Good humor. Laughter. Rest. Happiness. These replenish health and bring long life.  The happy person has the gift to improve the environment wherever they live.  “Good humor saves us from the hands of the doctor”. Happiness is health and therapy.

These thoughts will definetly create an impact in your thinking and behaviour.   Lets live a healthier life.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

Count your life by the number of happier moments rather than the number of years, the quality of years spent is important than the quantity.

90-10 Principle

August 9, 2009

Hi winners,

One of my favourite principle is Pareto’s 80/20 principle,  Since long time, I was thinking about spreading it and now I got the opportunity to broadcast this.  I was looking for an apt article to demonstrate this principle.   Fortunately, when I was archiving my mails I got a forwarded mail from one of my friend Abdul Basid.  This thought was created by renowned motivational trainer “Stephen Covey”.     Enjoy reading this principle……….

10% of life is made up of what happens to you…AND…90% of life is decided by how you react…

We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.

  • We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
  • The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
  • A driver may cut us off in the traffic.

We have NO control over this 10%.  The other 90% is different.  You determine the other 90%.  How?… By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light.  However, you can control your reaction.

Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family.   Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee Onto your business shirt.  You have no control over what has just happened.  What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.  You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.  She breaks down in tears.  After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.  A short verbal battle follows.  You storm upstairs and change your shirt.  Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.  She misses the us.  Your spouse must leave immediately for work.  You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.  Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.  After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.  Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.   After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. 

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.  You look forward to coming home.  When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.   Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

 Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.  How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. 

Lets image for a moment that you had been provided another chance to respond to this situation(But in real life there is no rewind button).  Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffe splashes over you.  Your daughter is about to cry.  You gently say: “It’s okay, honey, you just need to be More careful next time.”  Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.  She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff. 

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios.  Both started the same.  Both ended different.  Why?

Because of how you reacted or responded.  You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.  The other 90% was determined by your reaction/response. 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge.  Let the attack roll off like water on glass.  You do not have to let the negative comments affect you.  Respond properly and it will not ruin your day.  A reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?

Do you lose your temper?  Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off),  Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?  Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?  Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.  Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out.  Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.  Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?  She has no control over what is going on.  Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?  It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90/10 Principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.  You will lose nothing if you try it. 

The 90/10 Principle is incredible.  Very few know and apply this Principle.  The result?  You will see it by yourself!  Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle.  It can change your life! 

My few cents of worth thought is to depict the difference between RESPONSE and REACTION.   Reaction is mentioned in the negative sense and Response in the positive sense.  For eg., if a patient is undergoing a treatment and if the treatment creates an adverse effect on the patient’s health then the doctor will say that his body is reacting to the treatment, on the other side if the patient’s condition improves then he will say that his body is responding to the treatment.   Now you could get the difference between these two.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

“Start responding to the situation instead of reacting to it, this will make your life wonderful”

GlassOfWater

August 5, 2009

Dear Winners,

Being in this rocket pace world, we used to carry lot of stress on our back and lead an unhealthy life.    We need to understand that Stress is a pshycological factor rather than a physical one.    It will stay as along as you wish and the saddest part is that we don’t make attempt to get out of it instead we stick on to it to feel more bad.

I’m dedicating this story for all those minds who love(unconciously) to carry this cute little foe.  Enjoy reading it……

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 100gm to 200 gm.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

“In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.

“Relax; pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!”

In my Bullet Proof Manager Training,  I learnt a wonderful technique of avoiding bad stress.   Our mind is like a vessel and  what needs to be filled in is our choice, you can either feed in with a good habit or else with a bad habit, the rule is that at any point in time it should not be left empty.

For instance if you wish to leave a bad habit, you can’t succeed in that without replacing it with a good habit.   If you do that without a replacement, it will create a vaccum and sooner or later you will catch up and stick on to the same old bad habit again.  For example if you plan to quit smoking then replace that habit with Chewing gum.   Please don’t argue whether Chewing gum is good or bad, this is just an example.   

In the same way if you need to get rid of distress then you need to fill that space with a replacement.    At this point, I would like to introduce a new word called “Eustress” which is nothing but a Good stress.   At any point in time your mind can be filled in with Eustress or Distress, the choice is yours.   If you feel that your mind is occupied by distress then immediately replace that with some energising, refreshing thought, else you will continute to hold on to this bad stress and spoil your life.    If you could clearly understand this difference then you can easily lead an Eustressful life. 

Lets spread our world with lot of Eustress and enjoy our life with lot of merriment.

Will meet you again with some more  interesting thoughts.

Please provide your valuable Eustress(Comments) to keep up my momentum in blogging.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

Life gifted y0u with two choices “You can Win or You can learn”,  “feeling bad or distressed” is not an option for you.

Positive thinking

July 30, 2009

Hi Winners,
I’m glad to meet you again, this time with the story from our former president “APJ Abdul Kalam” – “Power of Positive Talk”.  I hope most of the people would have read this story, I just want to re-inforce the concept again.   Enjoy reading it.

“I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age. Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.

One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth. My little eight-year-old brain didn’t realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high.

My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy’s mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad’s voice over the wind yell, “Bart, Hold on tightly.” So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree.

I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, when Tammy’s mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, “Tammy, don’t fall!” And Tammy did. fall.

My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.

This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can’t visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that.  For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn’t get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, “Don’t drop it!” Naturally, I dropped the ball.

My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper “self-talk..” They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn’t. I’ll never make it pro, but I’m now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player, because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career.

Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, “Okay, try to drop the pencil.” Observe what they do.

Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, “You weren’t paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again.” Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.   The point is made.

If you tell your brain you will “give it a try,” you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a “no try” rule in my house and with everyone I interact with. Either people will do it or they won’t. Either they will be at the party or they won’t. I’m brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don’t know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words “I’ll try” come out of my mouth unless I’m teaching this concept in a seminar.

If you “try” and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can’t make a decision I will tell the truth. “Sorry John. I’m not sure if I will be at your party or not. I’ve got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite.”
People respect honesty. So remove the word “try” from your vocabulary.

My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.

Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms. Heck, I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction.

So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, ” I’m fat. Nobody will like me. I’ll try this diet. I’m not good enough. I’m so stupid. I’m broke, etc. etc.”

If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.

Notice when you or other people use them.

  • But: Negates any words that are stated before it.
  • Try: Presupposes failure.
  • If: Presupposes that you may not.
  • Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener.
  • Would Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen.
  • Should Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen (and implies guilt.)
  • Could Have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn’t actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
  • Can’t/Don’t: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.

Examples:
Toxic phrase: “Don’t drop the ball!”
Likely result: Drops the ball
Better language: “Catch the ball!”

Toxic phrase: You shouldn’t watch so much television.”
Likely result: Watches more television.
Better language: “I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!”

Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.”

Hope you had enjoyed the story and got wonder message on positive thinking.

I will meet you with yet another interesting thought, till then have many wonderful moments.

Cheers,
Saran

“It’s not ‘what you are’ or ‘who you are’ decides your destination.  It’s ‘what you think’ that decides your destination”

From Good to Outstanding

July 27, 2009

Hi winners,

Today I was in a discussion with my General Manager along with my fellow colleague discussing about the performance of my team members.   The discussion was going on for a long time until we realized that the time is 10:50pm.   The summary of the discussion is “how to identify a person’s performance as Good, Very Good or Excellent”.    This had made me to remember a story that I had read long back.     With the help of my friend “Google” I had discovered that story.   I am sharing that with you for invoking your neurons.    This story will give you a crystal clear thought on boosting your performance from Good to Great.   Enjoy reading it.

Employee “Saran” in a company walked up to his manager and asked what my job is for the day?
The manager took “Saran” to the bank of a river and asked him to cross the river and reach the other side of the bank. “Saran” completed this task successfully and reported back to the manager about the completion of the task assigned.
The manager smiled and said “GOOD JOB”

Next day Employee “Venkat” reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day.
The manager assigned the same task as above to this person also. The Employee “Venkat” before starting the task saw Employee “Mohan” struggling in the river to reach the other side of the bank. He realized “Mohan” has the same task. Now “Venkat” not only crossed the river but also helped “Mohan” to cross the river.
“Venkat” reported back to the manager and the manager smiled and said “VERY GOOD JOB”

The following day Employee “Ranga” reported to the same manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again.
Employee “Ranga” before starting the work did some home work and realized “Saran”, “Venkat” & “Mohan” all has done this task before. He met them and understood how they performed. He realized that there is a need for a guide and training for doing this task. He sat first and wrote down the procedure for crossing the river, he documented the common mistakes people made, and tricks to do the task efficiently and effortlessly. Using the methodology he had written down he crossed the river and reported back to the manager along with documented procedure and training material.
The manger said “Ranga” you have done an “EXCELLENT JOB”.

The following day Employee “Sudhir“‘ reported to the manager and asked him the job for the day. The manager assigned the same task again.
“Sudhir” studied the procedure written down by “Ranga” and sat and thought about the whole task.  He realized company is spending lot of money in getting this task completed. He decided not to cross the river, but sat and designed and implemented a bridge across the river and went back to his manager and said, “You no longer need to assign this task to any one”.
The manager smiled and said “OUTSTANDING JOB ‘Sudhir’. I AM VERY PROUD OF YOU.”

What is the difference between Saran, Venkat, Ranga & Sudhir?

Many a times in life we get tasks to be done at home, at office, at play. Most of us end up doing what is expected out of us. Do we feel happy? Most probably yes.
We would be often disappointed when the recognition is not meeting our expectation.

Let us compare ourselves with “Venkat”. Helping someone else the problem often improves our own skills. There is an old proverb (I do not know the author) “learn to teach and teach to learn”. From a company point of view “Venkat” has demonstrated much better skills than “Saran” since one more task for the company is completed.  “Ranga” created knowledge base for the team. More often than not, we do the task assigned to us without checking history. Learning from other’s mistake is the best way to improve efficiency. This knowledge creation for the team is of immense help. Re-usability reduces cost there by increases productivity of the team. “Ranga” demonstrated good “team-player” skills.

Now to the outstanding person, “Sudhir” made the task irrelevant; he created a Permanent Asset to the team.
If you notice Venkat, Ranga and Sudhir all have demonstrated “team performance” over an above individual performance; also they have demonstrated a very invaluable characteristic known as “INITIATIVE”.

Initiative pays of every where whether at work or at personal life. If you put initiative you will succeed. Initiative is a continual process and it never ends.
This is because this year’s achievement is next year’s task. You cannot use the same success story every year.   The story provides an instance of performance, where as measurement needs to be spread across at least 6-12 months. Consequently performance should be consistent and evenly spread.
Out-of-Box thinkers are always premium and that is what everyone constantly looks out for. Initiative, Out-of-Box thinking and commitment are the stepping stone to success.  Initiative should be lifelong. Think of out of the box.

Hope you had got an extra ordinary message from this story.     I request all of you to capture this message in your long term memory and prove your excellence in your job.  

Have many wonderful moments ahead.

cheers,

Saran

Success is not a milestone, it should be your Journey

Never cry for one who makes you cry

July 25, 2009

Hi folks,

I’m back with yet another story, this is totally different and ofcouse unexpected one.  But I feel that this will be highly motivating especially for the teens.  Ok let me narrate the story that I had read long ago.

Once, there was a guy, who was in love with a gal. She wasn’t the most beautiful and gorgeous but for him, she was everything.  He used to dream about her, about spending the rest of life with her. His friends told him, “why do you dream so much about her, when you don’t even know if she loves you or not? First tell her your feelings, and get to know if she likes you or not”. He felt that was the right way. The girl knew from the beginning, that this guy loves her. One day when he proposed, she rejected him. His friends thought he would take to alcohol; drugs etc. and ruin his life.  To their surprise, he was not depressed. When they asked him how was it that he is not sad, he replied, “‘why should I feel bad?       I lost one who never loved me & she lost the one who really loved and cared for her.”

Never Cry for One Who Makes You Cry!

How true is this my friends?   God had provided us a wonderful body and soul for the sake of experiencing and enjoying our life, but lot of ignorant and coward people sacrifice their life for this perceived love failure,  I had also seen people who had lost interest in life and gone mad.      If you had failed in love it does not mean that your love is false, it actually means that you had loved a person who does not deserve to be your love partner.    

What ever happens in our life, we need to grab the experience out of it and start moving on.    Life is a beautiful journey you should not abandon this journey because a person you liked did not board the vehicle.   Instead start loving your journey and gift it with lot of success and achivements, if you did so then your journey will become meaningful and you will create a meaning to lot of people in this world.

So lets start loving our life and make our journey a meaningful one….

Have a wonderful time.

cheers,

Saran.

Attitude

July 23, 2009

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”

Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut way all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma centre.

After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

Jerry continued, “The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’

“I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘ Yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breathe and yelled, ‘ Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them. ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
 
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You have 2 choices now:
 
1. Crib about your daily life and whatever you are doing and be unhappy . . .
 
2.  Enjoy every moment of your life & give in your Best.

cheers,

Saran

Courtesy: Anonymous

My first post……Motivation is my cup of Tea

July 23, 2009

Dear all,
It’s been a long desire for me to start a blog for myself; just now I had made an appointment with myself to do this.

As a philosopher said, “Each and every human being is unique having an innate potential and aspiration”. My aspiration is to make each person identify their innate potentials and make them come up in their life. Yes….. My passion is to Motivate others.

To be frank, I did not know about my potential for a long time, my close friends and Juniors had identified this and made me realise it. I used to go to my college for lot of “Guest lectures” on career development, Personality development, Preparation for Interviews and Group discussions. I also used to train my room mates for a job in the software industry. I’m very much thankful to these people especially Sudhir Kumar, Murugan, Kalyan……… These folks had provided me with lot of comments about my motivational skills. Thanks to all those Pals….So I had thought to start blogging in the area of Motivation and empowerment…. and finally here it is.
From now on, all my future blogs will be based on Personality development, Innovation, Creativity, Self Improvement, Optimism (B +ve attitude), Success…….

That’s all for now….

Will meet you with more interesting stuffs.

cheers,
Saran.