Archive for August 2009

CrackedPot

August 26, 2009

Hi Winners,

This time, I bring you with an interesting story about finding Positives in our short comings.     I thank my friend Rex(Trainers-Training-2008 group) for reminding this story.   Enjoy reading this….

A water bearer in India had two large pots, one hung on each end of a pole which he carried across his neck. One of the pots had a crack in it, and while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the master’s house.  The cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water in his master’s house.  Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made.  But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.”  Why?” asked the bearer.  “What are you ashamed of?”  “I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your master’s house.  Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.  The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in his compassion he said, “As we return to the master’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”  Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some.   But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.  The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of your path, but not on the other pot’s side?  That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them.  For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers  to decorate my master’s table. Without you being just the way you are, he would not have this beauty to grace his house.”

Moral: Each of us has our own unique flaws. We’re all cracked pots.

Instead of cribbing over your short-comings, lets think about how to convert them into a super power.    If you feel that your dearest members(friends, parents, spouse, children) are cracked pots, then start thinking about converting them in a positive direction before they get collapsed by those short-comings.   Definetly there will be some inherent power in them that can make their life as well as your life a living master piece.

So lets start appreciating all the different people in our life!

cheers,

Saran.

As for me “FAILURE” is a process of “Finding Abundant Intelligence  in Life to Unearth the Richest Experiences (Success)”

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Art of being Well

August 20, 2009

Hi Winners,

I’m delighted to meet you all after a long gap.   I’m happy to display yet another interesting and extremely motivating thought “Art of being well”.   This thought is compiled from a speech by “Dr. Dráuzio Varella”,  a famous Brazilian physician, educator and Scientist.    Enjoy reading it.

If you don’t want to be ill………Speak your feelings

motions and feelings that are hidden, repressed, end in illnesses as: gastritis, ulcer, lumbar pains, spinal.  With time, the repression of the feelings degenerates to the cancer.  Then, we go to a confidante, to share our intimacy, ours “secret”, our errors! The dialogue, the speech, the word, is a powerful remedy and an excellent therapy!

If you don’t want to be ill………Make decisions

The undecided person remains in doubt, in anxiety, in anguish. Indecision accumulates problems, worries and aggressions. Human history is made of decisions.  To decide is precisely to know to renounce, to know to lose advantages and values to win others.  The undecided people are victims of gastric ailments, nervous pains and problems of the skin.

If you don’t want to be ill………Find solutions

Negative people do not find solutions and they enlarge problems.  They prefer lamentation, gossip, pessimism. It is better to light a match that to regret the darkness. A bee is small, but produces one of the sweetest things that exist.  We are what we think. The negative thought generates negative energy that is transformed into illness.

If you don’t want to be ill………Don’t live by appearance

Who hides reality, pretends , poses and always wants to give the impression of being well. He wants to be seen as perfect, easy-going, etc. but is accumulating tons of weight.  A bronze statue with feet of clay. There is nothing worse for the health than to live on appearances and facades.  These are people with a lot of varnish and little root.  Their destiny is the pharmacy, the hospital and pain.

If you don’t want to be ill………Accept

The refusal of acceptance and the absence of self-esteem, make us alienate ourselves.  Being at one with ourselves is the core of a healthy life. They who do not accept this, become envious, jealous, imitators, ultra-competitive, destructive.  Be accepted, accept that you are accepted, accept the criticisms. It is wisdom, good sense and therapy.

If you don’t want to be ill………Trust

Who does not trust, does not communicate, is not opened, is not related, does not create deep and stable relations, does not know to do true friendships.  Without confidence, there is not relationship. Distrust is a lack of faith in you and in faith itself.

If you don’t want to be ill………Do not Live Life Sad

Good humor. Laughter. Rest. Happiness. These replenish health and bring long life.  The happy person has the gift to improve the environment wherever they live.  “Good humor saves us from the hands of the doctor”. Happiness is health and therapy.

These thoughts will definetly create an impact in your thinking and behaviour.   Lets live a healthier life.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

Count your life by the number of happier moments rather than the number of years, the quality of years spent is important than the quantity.

90-10 Principle

August 9, 2009

Hi winners,

One of my favourite principle is Pareto’s 80/20 principle,  Since long time, I was thinking about spreading it and now I got the opportunity to broadcast this.  I was looking for an apt article to demonstrate this principle.   Fortunately, when I was archiving my mails I got a forwarded mail from one of my friend Abdul Basid.  This thought was created by renowned motivational trainer “Stephen Covey”.     Enjoy reading this principle……….

10% of life is made up of what happens to you…AND…90% of life is decided by how you react…

We really have NO control over 10% of what happens to us.

  • We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
  • The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off.
  • A driver may cut us off in the traffic.

We have NO control over this 10%.  The other 90% is different.  You determine the other 90%.  How?… By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light.  However, you can control your reaction.

Do not let people fool you. YOU can control how you react.

Let us use an example…

You are having breakfast with your family.   Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee Onto your business shirt.  You have no control over what has just happened.  What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.  You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.  She breaks down in tears.  After scolding her, you turn to your wife and you criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.  A short verbal battle follows.  You storm upstairs and change your shirt.  Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school.  She misses the us.  Your spouse must leave immediately for work.  You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.  Because you are late, you drive 40 miles per hour in a 30 mph speed limit zone.  After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60.00 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.  Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.   After arriving at the office 20 minute late, you realize you forgot your briefcase. 

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse.  You look forward to coming home.  When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter.   Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning.

 Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D”

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.  How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. 

Lets image for a moment that you had been provided another chance to respond to this situation(But in real life there is no rewind button).  Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffe splashes over you.  Your daughter is about to cry.  You gently say: “It’s okay, honey, you just need to be More careful next time.”  Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.  She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early a cheerfully greet the staff. 

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios.  Both started the same.  Both ended different.  Why?

Because of how you reacted or responded.  You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life.  The other 90% was determined by your reaction/response. 

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 Principle.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge.  Let the attack roll off like water on glass.  You do not have to let the negative comments affect you.  Respond properly and it will not ruin your day.  A reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, or getting stressed out.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in the traffic?

Do you lose your temper?  Pound on the steering wheel? (a friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off),  Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?  Who cares if you arrive 10 seconds later at work?  Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 Principle and don’t worry about it.

You are told you lost your job.  Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out.  Use your worrying energy and time to find a new job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.  Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?  She has no control over what is going on.  Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, why stress out?  It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90/10 Principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.  You will lose nothing if you try it. 

The 90/10 Principle is incredible.  Very few know and apply this Principle.  The result?  You will see it by yourself!  Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and headaches.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 Principle.  It can change your life! 

My few cents of worth thought is to depict the difference between RESPONSE and REACTION.   Reaction is mentioned in the negative sense and Response in the positive sense.  For eg., if a patient is undergoing a treatment and if the treatment creates an adverse effect on the patient’s health then the doctor will say that his body is reacting to the treatment, on the other side if the patient’s condition improves then he will say that his body is responding to the treatment.   Now you could get the difference between these two.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

“Start responding to the situation instead of reacting to it, this will make your life wonderful”

GlassOfWater

August 5, 2009

Dear Winners,

Being in this rocket pace world, we used to carry lot of stress on our back and lead an unhealthy life.    We need to understand that Stress is a pshycological factor rather than a physical one.    It will stay as along as you wish and the saddest part is that we don’t make attempt to get out of it instead we stick on to it to feel more bad.

I’m dedicating this story for all those minds who love(unconciously) to carry this cute little foe.  Enjoy reading it……

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 100gm to 200 gm.

The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

“In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” He continued, “And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.

“So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can.

“Relax; pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!”

In my Bullet Proof Manager Training,  I learnt a wonderful technique of avoiding bad stress.   Our mind is like a vessel and  what needs to be filled in is our choice, you can either feed in with a good habit or else with a bad habit, the rule is that at any point in time it should not be left empty.

For instance if you wish to leave a bad habit, you can’t succeed in that without replacing it with a good habit.   If you do that without a replacement, it will create a vaccum and sooner or later you will catch up and stick on to the same old bad habit again.  For example if you plan to quit smoking then replace that habit with Chewing gum.   Please don’t argue whether Chewing gum is good or bad, this is just an example.   

In the same way if you need to get rid of distress then you need to fill that space with a replacement.    At this point, I would like to introduce a new word called “Eustress” which is nothing but a Good stress.   At any point in time your mind can be filled in with Eustress or Distress, the choice is yours.   If you feel that your mind is occupied by distress then immediately replace that with some energising, refreshing thought, else you will continute to hold on to this bad stress and spoil your life.    If you could clearly understand this difference then you can easily lead an Eustressful life. 

Lets spread our world with lot of Eustress and enjoy our life with lot of merriment.

Will meet you again with some more  interesting thoughts.

Please provide your valuable Eustress(Comments) to keep up my momentum in blogging.

Have many wonderful moments.

cheers,

Saran.

Life gifted y0u with two choices “You can Win or You can learn”,  “feeling bad or distressed” is not an option for you.